An afterword

 
If you've come this far, and put into practice all the questions asked of you in the 'exercises', you'll now have a far better understanding than before of your responsibility - and your power. If you've come this far, it won't have been an easy ride: that in itself should show you your courage and, again, your power. If you're a woman, you'll know that you can and do change the world. That's what power is.

That's what power is: yet it always consequences, for everyone, so it always has to be used with awareness and wisdom. And a certain humility and respect, for others as well as for self. This is what the old 'wise-women', the proverbial 'grandmothers' of native American lore, knew and lived in their lives; and it's also why they tended to be quiet, thoughtful, reflective, yet with a deep earthy humour, and a deep earthy anger when needed. What you've seen throughout this book is what women's power looks like - what it has always looked like. And what you've seen throughout this book is what women's violence looks like - what it has always looked like. It's up to you not to waste that power in violence, but to make that power real: that's what responsibility is.

Women's power, women's violence, and women's responsibility must ultimately be women's business - not men's. In this book I've explored with you only its edges, and shown you that which I can see. From here on, I can go no further with you: it's your world, and your choice, and I have no power, and neither responsibility nor right, to change that. All I will say, as we part, is that I wish you well in your travels, and to repeat once more the comment with which we started this book:

I wish you to be powerful
and for that power to be real.